Connecting Dots

steve jobs

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” ~ Steve Jobs

It all counts. Every experience, good or bad, in your life matters. Eventually. Sometimes sooner, sometimes later, but like a puzzle, the picture will eventually take shape and make sense.

I went to work at the YMCA when I was 18 years old and worked there three separate times throughout my career, each time with increased responsibility and a deeper connection to the community.

The Y’s mission, values, and philosophy got in my blood. Their mission is to “Put Christian principles into practice that build healthy spirit, mind and body for all.” Those three words “spirit, mind, body” have become guiding lights in my life. I have seen these words many times throughout the years, but the older I get the more meaning I attach to them and the more it all makes sense. .

Now, working on my spirit, mind, and body is part of my daily routine. Before my feet hit the floor in the morning, I have said my prayers of gratitude and asked God for guidance throughout my day. After getting my foster kids off to school, the next thing I do is work on my mind and body by going for a walk while listening to an empowering podcast like Dan Clark’s The Art of Significance.

Then, I look at my vision board, visualize what my ideal life looks like, and say affirmations through a technique inspired by Chicken Soup for the Soul author and Success Coach, Jack Canfield.

Throughout the day, I watch motivational videos, listen to my favorite podcasts and audio books, hydrate, and move my body in between working to build my Chick Flicks and Chocolate biz.

I am more focused and determined than I have ever been in my life. It feels amazing, especially compared to the alternative that I did for many years, which was to fall into the zombie trap of working as many hours as I could while sitting still for 8 hours a day (sometimes 12-16 hours!), then come home and numb out by mindlessly watching TV or scanning social media while eating junk food.

I paid the price for a SAD diet and sedentary lifestyle with morbid obesity and edema that has put me on the sidelines of life many times. Overcoming years of neglect to my health is like pushing a freight train uphill, but I am doing it by staying laser focused on my spirit, mind, and body. . .

My only regret is that it has taken so long to realize that what you feed your mind, body and spirit determines your destiny. Of course I don’t wallow in regret or negativity. I acknowledge it and move on, learning from each experience and using it to propel me towards my calling to make a positive difference in the world. To think that the answer has been with me all along. I just had to connect the dots which as Steve Jobs said can only be done in hindsight.

Onward and upward. . .


Journey out of the Comfort Zone

Last night I ran across this interview from my Y days when I was the Membership & Marketing Director and Water Aerobics Instructor. As I watched the video, I was thinking what happened to that confident woman? Aren’t you supposed to get more confident as you grow older?

Somewhere along the way I lost that confidence and purpose. I fell into the trap of mediocrity. I made excuses for not exercising, eating healthy, or pursuing my dreams. The job at the Y pushed me to step up and lead. I was at the head of the class and out in the community being a representative of health and fitness. It was exhilarating, but sometimes exhausting as my dominate introvert side prefers to work behind the scenes.

At first, it was a relief when I left the Y and just had an office job in a factory where I could “relax” and hang out in my comfort zone for a little while. Just work and go home. The problem is the comfort zone is the least comfortable place to be! I became complacent and settled for less than I knew I could achieve. This knowledge chipped away at my confidence and left me feeling defeated.

In the back of my mind my younger, stronger, confident self kept pushing me to get back in the game of life. Put yourself out there because there are people in your shoes that need help finding their way out of a funk and into a life of purpose and passion. By pursuing your dreams, you inspire others to pursue their dreams.

So, I started thinking about how I could get out of my own way and back on track to living outside the lines in that place where all the magic happens. I dove back into personal development which I studied extensively in my Y days. Several hours a day, consistently every day I would read, listen to audiobooks, podcasts, watch videos, take courses. I immersed myself in positive psychology…


From this more focused and centered mindset, Chick Flicks and Chocolate bubbled up to the surface as a platform to share my passion for personal development with the world. I resisted at first from fear of missing out on other opportunities.

I recognized this form of procrastination and created a formula to determine which path to pursue when you are stuck and chasing shiny objects. But guess what, Chick Flicks and Chocolate didn’t top the list. A business involving plant based nutrition did. Even though I know that business would thrive, I kept feeling that I needed some fun and adventure in my life and Chick Flicks and Chocolate could provide that. So, I started focusing on bringing my idea to life and that leads to today, my first blog post!

With Chick Flicks and Chocolate, I see myself traveling to chocolate shops all over the USA and in Paris, Switzerland, Italy… attending chick flick premiers, walking across the red carpet in Hollywood and at the Cannes Film Festival interviewing celebrities and change makers of the world for my Chick Flicks and Chocolate podcast that is listened to by millions of people around the world. I also want to help empower women and children that are in domestic violence and homeless shelters. Yes, it’s a big dream, but it’s pursuing the dream that makes us feel alive. I am excited for the journey.

Let’s do this!

Kathy G